How to Flirt With Women Successfully

A lot of men have a big problem: they don’t know how to talk to women. In particular, they don’t know how to talk to a woman they find attractive or how to approach a girl they really like and would like to get to know better. There are a ton of books in existence on how to flirt with women but not one of them spills the absolutely crucial secrets you need to learn and understand if you want to have women eating out of your hand every time you talk to them.

Firstly you have to think about the reasons you’ve failed before. Obviously failure is not the first thing you want to think about but it’s crucial you do so to learn how to seduce a woman successfully. Were you coming on too strong? Did you operate on your own or with a friend aka a wingman? Did you pick up her verbal and non-verbal cues? And what were the signals you were giving out?

The fact is that there is so much more to learning about how to talk to a woman than simply asking her questions about herself. Women are too sharp for that – they can almost smell and will always pick up a fake note in your voice. The best way to find out how to talk to hot women is to observe a master - the type who has women practically licking his feet, laughing at his every word and gazing at him with Bambi eyes…

Discovering how to flirt with women is an art. Some men are better artists than other guys. Take heart though because, just as with any art, you will be able to polish your techniques to the point that you could approach a girl and score a slamdunk every time. Just think about the guys who make it seem easy. Let me tell you one of their secrets - they always seem relaxed. They are relaxed because they’ve learned the secret of accessing and then projecting the supreme but quiet confidence that has women panting for more.

There are a number of ways you can gain this same confidence. You could try NLP or a more visceral approach. Gaining confidence, however, is just part of the game. You must also be able to project the perfect amount when you talk to women. Most importantly, you must learn when to hold back. Learn how to control what you say - and, crucially, what you don't say - and you'll become an expert on how to flirt with women. Mix that in with real sincerity and you're way ahead of most men.

Want to know the best way to seduce a woman? Learn not only how to talk to a woman but how to listen.  Pay close attention to what comes out of her mouth and when you talk to women make sure you are the one who takes up less air time. You see, the absolute no. 1 one to have her hanging on to your every word (and then some...) is to mirror what she says.

By this I don't mean repeat everything word for word - she would just think you are insane. But really listen to the subjects she likes to talk about, her opinions, her views...Again, you don't have to agree with her but - and this is the clever bit - you do have to match her tone and pace. It's an old NLP trick but it works. We like people who sound like us. If she talks softly, lower your voice. If, conversely, she's very animated then you have to keep up your energy levels. The watchword here is SUBTLE. If she catches on to what you're doing, you're sunk.

Also make sure you maintain eye contact and then break it off now and then when she's talking. This will reassure her you are paying attention while also conveying the message that she has to keep you interested. Yes, that's right. Keep you interested. Flirting is a two way game. The real art of seduction is leading someone to think they are the one who really wants this to happen and you create that state by mirroring her so she feels comfortable.

I know you're thinking that you're going to have to feign attention on all sorts of topics you cannot stand and, yes, it's true you might have to look eager even during a discussion on kitten training. Then again, if you really can't bring yourself to do this maybe she's not the girl for you...